| Caroline
Casey chronicles
the adventure in the diary below in Aoife's
absence:
Day 057 > Monday 28
October > Tang Jung Resort, Dun Gun,
East Malaysia
Thought of the Day
Imagine not having been on a beach in 9
years or not having gone swimming especially
when you both love sun, sea sand and swimming.
Since his accident, Mike has not been on
a beach, but looked onto them from the safety
of solid non sandy ground. I was determined
from the very beginning that I would get
Mike on to a beach and in for a swim. I
have this joke with him - that we would
do angels in the sand and water (that means
lying back and moving your arms up and down
as if you were flapping your wings) And
today we did it. Jon and I chair lifted
Mike out of his chair and carried him down
to the sea where I sat with Mike in the
shallow water and supported him with my
legs while the waves crashed over us, God
there is nothing more incredible in watching
someone getting so much out of an experience.
Without sounding like a total sop, I felt
really lucky to be sitting with Mike holding
and supporting him in the water. It was
great to see him smile so broadly and say
- I am back, I am back on the beach! It
may not seem a big deal from the text of
a website but it was. I love the sea and
I just can not imagine not being able to
swim or walk along a beach. Yesterday Mike
watched all of us jumping around and playing
in the sea while he sat in his chair on
the grass, not even on the sand because
the sand was too soft for his chair. And
though we had a great time all of us kept
looking back at him as he was watching us
wanting for him that he could be involved
and not left out. There are so many things
that we can overcome and change and I think
we nearly feel we have left Mike down when
there are just things that we can't change
or make better. So it felt great that today
though Mike could not feel the sand between
his toes, because he has none, he certainly
felt the magic of the sea on his back.
Day 058> Tuesday 29
October > Kula Lumpur, Malaysia
Thought of the day!
Here we are again in the back of a van
travelling the 6 hours to KL where we begin
work again tonight at 8.00pm. Isn't it typical
but the day when you just begin to feel
you are unwinding you have to wind back
up again and give it socks? The last three
days have been so fantastic. We have laughed
so much and been utterly ridiculous. It
has been a long time since I have seen everyone
in such great from and by last night as
we were walking back from our barbeque on
the beach listening to Miles £1 Bee
Gee CD purchase he got from a night market
which was playing on our idea of a ghetto
blaster - Miles' talking book player we
had begun to unravel. For me however my
greatest mode of transport challenge awaits
me tomorrow and I am nervous! The challenge
is to race around the KL Grand Prix circuit
in a Lotus Elisse. IN theory, this is magic.
IN practicality, since I am, not allowed
drive, I do not KNOW how to drive. That
means I have not go a rashers how to use
a clutch, break and accelerator. Seeing
maybe one challenge but getting the car
started and changing gears is a hell of
a lot more of a concern. To that end, driving
lessons were set up for me during my stay
in the Tang Jung resort. That is, I have
had tow driving lessons - each a half an
hour long tutored by the most patient Captain
Mock. My first lesson was in a van and the
second in a Peugeot saloon! To get this
into context let me say - the lessons consisted
of me going 200 yards forwards and then
200 yards reversing and trying to get to
4th gear. Now to advance from that situation
to a race track in an expensive sports car
is like asking a one legged person to go
from crawling to Olympic sprinter in an
hour! To say I am petrified of screwing
up the car is an understatement but if Mike
can ride a camel I can crash a car with
style!
Day 059 > Wednesday
30 October > Singapore
Proton Formula 1 Pace Car
Lotus Elisse
Thought of the day
Learning to drive on the Malaysian Grand
prix formula 1 track makes your first real
driving experience out of this world. There
are times in my life when I have had adrenaline
pump unofrgivingly through my body - when
I bungee jumped or sky dived and God it
feels incredible! But today that same totally
addictive buzz was mine again after driving
5 laps of the Malaysian Grand Prix formula
one track tipping a top speed of 150km an
hour only aided by the navigation skills
of a very brave Mike! I have wanted for
so long to drive, to control a vehicle of
my own, to feel and sense speed at my finger
tips, to know that I was totally responsible
for myself and today I got that chance -
a once in a life time opportunity to do
something that so few people get to do,
let alone a partially sighted person, but
more importantly one that has never driven
before in her life or had to change a gear!
I will have to admit however that I was
scared witless this morning as I was last
night. As much as I wanted to taste and
live the experience I had been so worried
that I would screw up - that I would crash,
muck up the car, not be able to start it,
not be able to stop it and totally make
a fool of myself fin front of the Malaysian
media! Driving is something that just about
everyone can do - even Mike and when I told
people that were organising the event that
I did not know which pedal was the break
and which one was the accelerator, they
just gasped in amazement. Or maybe that
was fear! I chose not to learn to drive,
once I had been told that I never would
when I was 17. I knew that my desire to
drive was far greater than my rational approach
to safety and the risk of me not being able
to resist temptation if I had the skills
to drive would have been too great. My father
and Fergal often comment on the fact that
it is altogether a good thing I don't drive
as I think they would fear for my life due
to my reckless love of pushing limits. Looking
at the challenge today, in an unemotional,
detached and factual way - two visually
impaired people, one completely blind the
other partially sighted raced each other
on the Sepang race track. One of the two
had never driven before. The other can see
nothing! Those facts would make you either
roar laugh, run the opposite direction,
think someone was pulling your leg or that
you needed a hearing aid! The thing is that
not only did Miles and I race each other
but Miles drove his car at 200km an hour!
I really believe that because I was so nervous
before doing it I got even more from achieving
it. I carried out a life long dream - I
drove and I drove fast!
Magic moment of the
day
Realising I was driving! It struck me as
went down the straight of my second lap
that I was driving, that I, me myself and
I was driving - clipping corners, making
those wonderful screeching sound of burning
rubber, just that I was driving, I wasn't
sacred at all, I just wanted more, wanted
to go faster, and when I finished I just
wanted to jump up and down, until I fell
down with the sheer thrill of it all. Today
I did better than sticking to the rules
- I broke every one of them and loved it.
Hiccup of the day
Driving behind Miles. A tip of the day here.
When a totally blind man drives ahead of
you, put your foot down, find the accelerator
- and get ahead of him or get as far away
fro him as possible, otherwise you will
either find yourself nearly crashing into
him or having a far to real game of bumper
cars! Not only does this utterly freak your
co pilot to the point of speechlessness
but it is hardly the best way of securing
the trust of others as to your capability
and the potential of future driving opportunities.
And I can tell you, I would like to think
that my driving days are only beginning
- well that is what I like to tell myself
though I as I say this I can hear every
friend of mine silently grab their keys
and shove them well out of my reach!
Day 060 > Thursday
31 October > Singapore
· Tram
Thought of the day
Feeling like a crock! I finally had to give
in - go to the doctor! I am one of these
ridiculous individuals that avoids going
to the doctor until I have reached the point
of bubonic plague or the dentist until I
have lost every tooth in my mouth. This
morning was a bubonic plague morning - or
at least it felt like it. Over the last
few days I had noticed a rash under my right
arm which had started to get sore. As I
am not one to survey my armpits in the mirror
I just thought it was something minor until
yesterday when I found it hard to even move
it and Mike grimaced when I lifted my arm!
What I had thought to be a minor scrape
had turned into something far more evil!
The whole of my underarm was covered in
water blisters filled with a very dodgy
colour fluid which were weeping and multiplying
- no wonder my arm was sore. So this morning
when I realised that not only was the pain
so acute but the fact that I now looked
like I had the mange I decided to get it
sorted.
Frankly I was mortified seeing the doctor
as I looked like I had some form of leprosy
with my dodgy underarm, peeling sunburn
and a bite on my leg that had turned into
an engorged abscises. Rightly so I got a
ribbing for not looking after myself and
not coming to the doctor sooner and left
with a diagnosis of acute skin Candida,
a promise to act more promptly in future,
anti biotic cream for my gross leg and hideous
underarm and feeling like the most unattractive
female on the planet! The worst thing about
my latter concern is - I have to speak at
a black tie thing tomorrow night and my
dress is utterly sleeveless and since I
speak with the hand movements of a robot
on speed, meaning armpit exposure to the
audience I foresee a potential problem.
Magic moment of
the day
Singapore slings in Raffles hotel. Our host
charity took us out this afternoon for the
obligatory Singapore Slings (or Raffles
catapults as Miles has nicknamed them) and
afternoon tea at the infamous Raffles hotel.
I have to say we were all quite happy to
sit back, sip our cocktails, eat our cucumber
sandwiches with crusts cut off, followed
by scones and jam knowing that it was cold,
wet and miserable at home! Smug I know,
but there you have it, we never said we
were perfect. Sitting in the warm evening
heat in the stunning old colonial surrounding
of Raffles knowing that all we had left
achieve today was to go on a night Safari
was something to feel good about and thoroughly
appreciate.
Hiccup of the day
Still being up at 4.00am. Well, served me
right for being smug! It is 4.00am and we
are due up in 3 hours. Tea and scones already
feels like the last century. I am just about
to fall into bed after a hellish encounter
with the failings of technology! My plans
for an early saunter into bed fell around
me when a call from Ireland requested photographs
ASAP for a Sunday newspaper. Rational explanation
that getting onto the internet was proving
impossible, that the high resolution requirements
for the photographs was going to mean spending
hours due to limitations of available technology
just didn't cut the custard! Instead excessive
flirting with the receptionist to allow
us access the very closed business centre
saw us seated for 2 and a half hours with
laptops, temperamental A drives, battery
failed digital cameras and inexplicable
corrupt discs to try and reach the deadline!
Not sure how, but we did and I am now fit
to vomit I am that tired! At times I utterly
despair at the fact we are now so often
held to ransom by the increased expectations
that our advancing technology now imposes!
I have got to get some sleep!
Day 061 > Friday 1
November > Singapore
· Duck Boat
· Kayak
· Tri Shaws
Thought of the day
Where does Singapore get its relentless
enthusiasm? It is so striking how enthusiastic
and positive the people of Singapore are.
Like the Thai and the Malays Singaporeans
are so friendly, warm and welcoming and
seem to have boundless amounts of energy.
On the Duck boat today (an amphibious vehicle
that goes both on land and in water the
Dublin equivalent being the Viking Ship)
this was never more evident. As with the
night before when we did the night Safari,
the guides oozed limitless sing song friendliness
and love of their job!
In our sceptical nature the team looked
on in amazement totally bemused. But no
matter how we tried to resist it we too
were taken in and energised enough to dance
around the Duck boat, blowing our plastic
duck whistles which we had been given on
boarding, to the ever repeating Duck jingle
which had initially grated on every nerve.
I don't know what it is about Singapore
people but their warmth is infectious. When
we got on that boat this morning, we were
really not in the mood for the Disney World
"Have a nice Day Sir" approach
to life. An hour and a half later you could
not shut us up form laughing , bouncing
around and singing that dumb song word perfect
if you don't mind - it was scary. I think
you would want to be one very negative individual
not to be uplifted by the attitude and vibe
of Singapore and its people! At times I
think we have so much to learn.
Magic Moment of
the Day
Tea with the President. It is not often
in your life you get to have tea with a
president and first lady! Today at the request
of the President and his wife we had a very
memorable afternoon tea. Dressed in our
now fading uniform, unmistakably designed
for men leaving a woman feeling like a baby
hippopotamus, with hair still damp from
our Kayaking on the Singapore River we met
the incredible relaxed and welcoming couple.
Miles and I still high from our driving
experience chatted on about our burning
of rubber while Mike bragged about the fact
he now considered himself brave after being
my co pilot. Whether it is the fact that
over the last two months we have spoken
and met so many types of people from all
walk of life, much to the surprise of onlookers,
we chatted and joked quite ireverelantly
about kissing the blarney stone, the fact
that behind every great man there is a great
woman and who needs diets when the food
is so good. It was a really enjoyable hour
and after we scoffed every decrusted sandwich
and piece of cake we left happy and high
- the boys off to crash Tri Shaw and me
to find a dress that would not expose my
oozing armpits for the night's gala event!
Hiccup of the Day
Speaking as dinner is being served! I really
don't get the way they run charity events
in Asia. Surely if you want to engage people
into donating money or partaking in an auction
or raffle you should seek their full attention.
Tonight as with Bangkok we had to speak
as dinner was being served and eaten. Mind
you, from the moment we sat down until 11.00pm
endless courses of food appeared one by
one on our table - one equally as delicious
as the next so I am not sure that there
was ever an opportunity to speak without
some level of eating and plate clattering
being carried on in the background. But
speaking at the best of times is difficult,
let alone when you feel the only feed back
you are getting is the clicking of chopsticks.
What was worse about this situation was
that Mike for some very unexplained reason
was very nervous about speaking tonight!
After watching Robin and Miles struggle
to be heard over the chomp of chow Mike
was just not able to speak! In my mind Mike
has enough to deal with and being nervous
about speaking should not be one of them
especially since he has endless experience.
Whether this lack of attention is a cultural
phenomenon or not, public speaking is hellish
even for the most experienced of speakers.
It is strange, but I could not get over
how protective I came over Mike and how
annoyed I was with the noisier elements
of the audience. Therefore without much
thought I jumped into Mikes position to
speak on the stage, brought up a glass and
a piece of cutlery and began speaking by
bashing the fork on the glass and telling
the audience that whether I could see them
or not was irrelevant I could hear how rude
they were being. I have to say I even amazed
myself let alone everyone else.
Taking the roaming Mike and shaking like
a leaf I wandered and tripped in and out
of the tables saying anything that came
to mind. How I managed not to break down
and cry I am not sure but what I do know
is that Mike spoke after me to an impeccable
quiet audience and when I wrapped up you
could hear a pin drop and the very appreciative
applause was evidence to the fact that the
risk I had taken had paid off. As we came
down from the stage I saw Mike's face beaming
at me. He had overcome one hell of an obstacle
and done it so well. That look of relief
and accomplishment in his eyes made it worthwhile!
I can not get over that in a mere eight
weeks how much these men have come to mean
to me and how I know that I would do anything
for them - even if it meant risking making
a fool or idiot out of myself. The speaking
tonight was hair raising and for the first
time in a very long time I can understand
why in a survey of things that most people
fear the result evidenced that 90% of people
stated that public speaking was their greatest
fear.
Day 062 > Saturday
02 November > Singapore
· Wheelchair vehicles
· Dragon Boat
Thought of the day
A test run is always advisable. This morning
we found ourselves in Singapore Polytechnic
where the students had done a project designing
three unique vehicles using wheelchairs
as a base element. Each of the vehicles
was designed with a specific disability
in mind. In the case of Mike's mode of transport
it was a wheelchair with hand pedals; in
Miles and Robin's case the wheelchair had
been designed in the fashion of a bicycle
and side car, while my vehicle, the best
of them all was fashioned on a stand up
electric scooter. Our challenge was to race
the modes of transport around a circuit
and to return to the Polytechnic triumphant
and glorious. In my case this was not going
to be a problem of any description - I mean
accelerating a little electric scooter like
thing poses no problems and requires minimal
effort! In the case of Miles and Robin,
navigation was the only concern as Miles
insisted on cycling, mind you, having achieved
200km in a lotus Elisse on a race track
this was hardly something we could argue
about. But it was poor Mike whose circuit
proved less successful. The polytechnic
boasts some of Singapore's best young engineering
and architectural graduates, a team of which
had designed Mike's chair. Firstly his lack
of stomach muscles and the height at which
he sat in the chair meant that his arms
had to work incredibly hard to propel him
forward but when his chair started loosing
its bits Mike was nowhere to be seen. First
the hand pedal fell off. Then the chain
and finally the wheels! It was like watching
moving disintegration. Therefore the final
third of the circuit saw Mike back in his
own wheelchair and speeding downhill to
the finish line, leaving us for dust and
arriving triumphant to the sounds of Chariots
of Fire. His disintegrating mode of transport
gives a whole new dimension to the expression
"when the wheels fall off" and
when asked by the media what he thought
about the design of his vehicle he replied
simply "a test drive would have been
quite good"!
Magic moment of the day
Speaking at Singapore Polytechnic. After
our wheelchair extravaganza we did a motivational
talk to 600 of the polytechnic students.
After the previous nights struggles speaking
at the forum was fantastic. There are times
when it works and there are times when it
doesn't and today was one of those times
when not only were we communicating well
but the audience were hearing and understanding
what we were trying to say. Around the world
in 80 ways is about trying to carry a very
strong message that goes so far beyond attempting
80 modes of transport, so when we communicate
with people effectively, when we engage
them enough to have them question us, or
laugh with us there really is nothing more
satisfying. The students were a total pleasure
to speak to. You could hear them absorbing
and trying to understand what we were saying.
I think it still amazes people that we are
all so self deprecating and flippant with
each other and our varying disabilities.
It is amazing to feel a room start to follow
you, to sense them becoming comfortable
and intrigued by what you are saying as
you bring them on your own personal journey
for that hour. Mike, Myself, Miles and Robin
all speak so very differently. It never
ceases to amaze me how easily and naturally
we compliment each other in the same way
it still amazes me that four strangers have
gotten on so well without knowing each other.
It could have been so different. We all
took a highly emotional risk agreeing to
travel 3 months with people we barley knew
and to live in their pockets 24 hours a
day, and to rely on them, to perform with
them, to be engaging with them. I think
that our achieving of real personal acceptance
of each others flaws despite the downs,
tiredness and difficulties has made the
story far more than an adventure around
the world and it is that that I sense people
feed into when we speak!
Hiccup of the day.
When it rains in Singapore it pours! You
can control many things, but the weather,
even in sunny Singapore can let you down.
Once we stepped inside two dragon boats
our mode of transport to the Life without
Limits event the first drop of rain fell
and fell some more. We arrived to open the
ceremony like drowned rats and in my case
shoeless and trying to hide my bum as when
my trousers get wet they are see-through
- hardly the picture of professionalism!
But if we thought that the rain was heavy
out on the water we were very naïve
- the best was yet to come! Half an hour
after the opening ceremony was over; we
experienced the very wetness of tropical
rain. The rain drops as well as being enormous
and heavy fell in torrents that seemed endless.
But the great thing about tropical rains
is that you don't get pneumonia if you get
caught in them. Though for the event the
rain meant a complete disaster and wash
out I just could not resist the opportunity
to stand and revel in the warm soup like
rain and feel the accompanying cooling of
the air wash away the sweat of the morning.
Dancing in rain puddles and feeling warm
is one of those things that makes you feel
free, free and unchattled by age and responsibility,
just wonderfully silly and happy!
Day 063> Sunday 03
November > Singapore
Access 2.3 dingy sailing boats
Thought of the day
Will someone tell me what the thing is about
eating Italian food? We are in Asia, a place
where the food is absolutely delicious and
like every other country we have visited,
our hosts seem to think that eating Italian
would be a great treat. It has become one
of our in-house team jokes that no matter
where we go Italian is always the menu -
even in Egypt, Thailand, India and South
Africa and all we want to do is eat the
indigenous cuisine. We have considered that
there must be some serious Italian phenomenon
spreading through the world that we have
not heard about but if we see another slice
of pizza I think we will crack up!
Magic moment of the day
When you are away from home for a good
length of time, in my case, today 63 days
exactly it is wonderful to catch up with
someone from home even if it is only for
a really short time. I met Cathy Ledwidge
a collage friend of mine with her husband
Mathew this afternoon and it was like stepping
back in time. Cathy and Mathew had moved
to Singapore over a year and a half ago
and the last time I saw them was on their
wedding day - 31st October last year. You
know a friendship is a strong one when no
matter how long the time has been since
your last meeting you just pick up where
you left off and slip back so easily into
the way you were! Just kicking back and
shooting the breeze for a few hours and
not even noticing time go by was so fantastic
and felt so alien considering the last 9
weeks. I realised that none of the team
have had any personal time or space for
themselves. We have acted and thought and
operated as a group, so much so, that you
nearly forget to think how you as an individual
feel or what you may want. Sitting and talking
with someone who knows me so well, someone
to whom I do not have to explain things
to, was really fantastic. Over the few hours
I felt like Caroline, or Casey as I am better
know, outside of this trip emerge from my
80 ways role. We talked about the trip yes,
but as part of many other ridiculous and
serious conversations and I realised how
much I have missed home but also how much
I have pushed away thoughts of life outside
this trip because to do otherwise would
be both exhausting and pointless. I also
realised that though this trip has been
challenging, I am really happy and feel
that we have and are accomplishing personally
a lot more that we thought we would. Talking
to Cathy, an objective onlooker made me
realise all the things we have done over
the last few months and how amazingly this
trip has been despite all the rollercaosters.
But mostly spending time with Cathy made
me realise how much I miss her at home.
Thank God the world has become so small
and if we can get around the world in eighty
ways a trip or two to Singapore will just
be like walking in the park!
Hiccup of the day
Getting Mike to come ashore! This morning
we took to the water again, this time in
association with the federation for disability
and sports. Each of us were given a chance
to sail a Access 2.3 dingy which is a small
sailing boat especially adapted for people
with disabilities. It was a fantastic morning
bobbing along on the sea in beautiful sunny
weather in the most comfortable sailing
boat I have possible ever sat in, let alone
the easiest boat I have ever sailed. The
boat is made of fibre glass and about the
size of an optomist with one sail. The person
sailing sits right in the middle of the
boat on a canopy type seat with legs either
side of a joy stick which acts as a rudder.
These boats are apparently uncapsizable
and thus balance is not an issue for someone
like Mike hence once Mike got on the water
it was impossible to get him to come off
it. The sense of independent movement and
freedom and doing something that he had
done in the past, before his accident meant
that Mike was more than happy to while away
his Sunday sailing. Regardless of endless
calls to come back to the pontoon Mike proceeded
to ignore us all until he was well and truly
ready. Quite right too - why spoil a perfect
moment?
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